This site is for anyone interested in learning more about verbal, emotional,
or spiritual abuse in a marriage.
Do you feel blamed for what’s happening in your relationship?
Does your partner lie to you and then not own up to it?
Does your partner try to keep you from doing things you enjoy?
Does your partner dictate what you can and can’t do, and when you can do it?
Does your partner want to control everything you do?
Does your partner use religion as a method of requiring you to submit?
Does your partner contradict or disagree with you frequently?
Do you ever feel threatened in any manner?
Do you feel isolated from family and friends?
Does your partner make light of, or demean your accomplishments?
Does your partner forget important things a lot?
Does your partner withhold attention, affection, or information from you?
Does your partner make fun or you, tease you, and/or call you names?
Does your partner use body language as a method of treating you poorly?
Do you feel judged and then criticized for things you do?
Do you feel your self-esteem being chipped away at?
If any of these sound familiar, you could be in an abusive relationship.
Abusive behavior vs. an
abuser:
Are you aware that abusers engage in "abusive behavior?" An abuser frequently engages in the above types of behavior. What makes a person an abuser is one who engages in abusive behavior on a consistent basis. The abuser wants to control you, your actions, your whereabouts, and your life. This is the difference between an abuser and abusive behavior. This is explained more in the workbook for "But Words Will Never Hurt Me." (See left panel for the link to order)
Are you aware that abusers engage in "abusive behavior?" An abuser frequently engages in the above types of behavior. What makes a person an abuser is one who engages in abusive behavior on a consistent basis. The abuser wants to control you, your actions, your whereabouts, and your life. This is the difference between an abuser and abusive behavior. This is explained more in the workbook for "But Words Will Never Hurt Me." (See left panel for the link to order)
More about this site:
What's our purpose? We are here to assist you by providing resources to further your education. We are not trained counselors or psychologists but can point you toward them.
What do we have to offer? We are speaking out of experience. As survivors of abusive relationships, we can relate to your situation.
What if I'm a man being abused? Although this web site is mostly for women, you will still be able to gather much information. However, there are several resources for men who have been abused by women. Check under the "helpful links" section.
What can YOU do for us? We want to hear from you. If you have additional resources that we should know about, tell us! We will do further research and post the information.
Why do we want to hear from you? By telling us your story, it is healing for you to talk with people who can relate to your situation.
Our future plans. Del will be writing a book from the survivors perspective. It's important for those healing from verbal, emotional, and spiritual abuse to read books by counselors as well as those by survivors of abuse. "...But Words Will Never Hurt Me" is Del's auto-biography of her years living with an abuser. Her second book will include some of your stories. Please e-mail del@freefromverbalabuse.net.
Will you keep what we send confidential? We will NOT use any personal information unless you give us permission. However, we do appreciate contact information in case we have further questions.
What if I'm a Christian woman? Can you help me? We have several articles "in the works" for those in Christian marriages. Since abuse is becoming more rampant in the Christian community, we've devoted a section of this web site to assist you. To access those articles, you will need to do so through the "Christian Perspective" tab at the top of this page. Several articles should be available by the end of April, 2009.
What's our purpose? We are here to assist you by providing resources to further your education. We are not trained counselors or psychologists but can point you toward them.
What do we have to offer? We are speaking out of experience. As survivors of abusive relationships, we can relate to your situation.
What if I'm a man being abused? Although this web site is mostly for women, you will still be able to gather much information. However, there are several resources for men who have been abused by women. Check under the "helpful links" section.
What can YOU do for us? We want to hear from you. If you have additional resources that we should know about, tell us! We will do further research and post the information.
Why do we want to hear from you? By telling us your story, it is healing for you to talk with people who can relate to your situation.
Our future plans. Del will be writing a book from the survivors perspective. It's important for those healing from verbal, emotional, and spiritual abuse to read books by counselors as well as those by survivors of abuse. "...But Words Will Never Hurt Me" is Del's auto-biography of her years living with an abuser. Her second book will include some of your stories. Please e-mail del@freefromverbalabuse.net.
Will you keep what we send confidential? We will NOT use any personal information unless you give us permission. However, we do appreciate contact information in case we have further questions.
What if I'm a Christian woman? Can you help me? We have several articles "in the works" for those in Christian marriages. Since abuse is becoming more rampant in the Christian community, we've devoted a section of this web site to assist you. To access those articles, you will need to do so through the "Christian Perspective" tab at the top of this page. Several articles should be available by the end of April, 2009.
